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There have been quite a lot of posts and poems about depression recently, and very sad and tragic news of the suicide of a fellow blogger, and it’s lovely to see everybody pulling together as a community with words of support. But is it the same when it’s on your own doorstep?

It’s very easy to put on an online persona of caring, empathic individual. But if the one closest to you is suffering deeply, would you react in the same manner? Would you know what to say? Would you know what to do? When your world is suddenly turned on its head, would you go out of your way to try to help, or would you carry on regardless?

Which leads me to…

Are you an addict? Think about it. I’m not talking about drugs or alcohol here. I’m talking about smartphones, tablets, PCs – anything you can reach the internet on. Do you twitch when you don’t get your fix? Do you check your stats, likes and comments every couple of minutes? Do you live for your next hit? Try switching off for a few days. Do you have a social life outside of your online friends? When you switch back on, do you find that any of them actually missed you or even noticed you were gone?

Reality check
Time for a reality check. Assuming that you don’t live alone, leave home for a few days. When you get back, see if anyone missed you or noticed you were gone. Damn right they did!

Don’t lose track of what is important. Take time for the ones you purport to love. If you see that something’s wrong, reassure them – sincerely. Don’t just carry on regardless and hope it will just go away.

It might not – but they might.

16 thoughts on “Reality Check

  1. Your words carry weight, I work in mental health, I am a sufferer of depression and anxiety, and a parent of one who struggles with social anxiety…I need reality checks often, and am well known to take ‘social media’ breaks as it all becomes so overwhelming. Sometimes you just need to unplug, unwind and realize who and what is important in your life. Thank you for the reminder.

  2. It’s hard in our instant gratification world not to become addicted. You make a good point.

    I’m a ham radio operator – have been involved in radio, talking or fixing, since the mid- 1950s when I enklisted in the Air Force. When I earned my amateur license 26 years ago the point was made by the FCC that it was only a hobby. Family and friends should continue to be considered ahead of radio.

    This turned into a rand, didn’t it?” Thanks for bring up this subject. People need to know they matter.

  3. I wanted to honor your privacy. I went offline for a while. I was bleeding data. A 33 year divorce, homeless and unemployed but I still managed to get online. Some say I share too much but I feel if I could somehow help. I had to remember how to communicate again without a keyboard or texting. 9 minutes out of 10 now is writing and email now. I wouldn’t be surprised if someone started a 12 step for internet addicts.

  4. Thank you all for your lovely comments.

    There was so much more I wanted to put into this post, as these were just instant thoughts that I needed to get out of my system.

    I understand that for some the internet is their lifeline, and their only option for communicating with the outside world, and I’d like to address that, too, so please keep an eye out for updates.


  5. I am an addict I suppose, and yes I missed your words! I was happy to see you in my feed this morning. I’m sorry to hear about your friend. I’ve lost friends, it’s always natural to feel we could do more, always. Sometimes you can’t though because we aren’t the ones that need to do more. Hugs x

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